Self-image is something I never cared about because as a man I was insecure how I looked growing up, I hate everything about myself from my body to my lips and face. I grew up having this mindset of not being good-looking enough for women to approach me due to past bullying growing up that made me lose confidence in myself.
Self-image as a man, Society view of men he has to have six packs with the nice hairline, beards, dress well and can carry out a conversation without being nervous or stuttering every single word when he speaks. The biggest one that made me lost my confidence more was losing my hair during my mental health, I hated myself and how I looked that I didn’t want to take pictures and viewed myself has ugly. When I decided to shave it off, when people saw it some like me being bald but some the guys were laughing which made me feel some kind of way about my self-image and I didn’t like the way I looked. My body was one of the issues I had a problem with because I never seem to gain weight and never changed because I have always been skinny since the young days, I wasn’t really a big fan of eating. I would go days without food and when I eat I don’t eat healthy food, I was destroying my body with sugar and fizzy drinks. When people made fun of how I looked body wise, I always wear long selves or a cardigan to cover my arms because I didn’t like how skinny they were even during the summer as always been long selves. I have tried going to the gym but quit halfway due to people telling me I have to gain weight in order for me to start the gym, skinny guys like me can’t bulk up. I stopped and went back to eating unhealthy food, Redbull and biscuit In the morning, afternoon and evening.
At times, Self-image means nothing to us as men because we weren’t taught that. Sometimes when I see guys with pot bellies & see how much confidence they have in themselves even though people laugh at them, few years down the line I realise why do I care what people say about me because they don’t see me the way God sees me & God is the created of self-image because he knew what he was doing when he created me in his image, When people see me as being skinny with no hairline, God sees me as a strong, confidence and handsome guy. Self imagine doesn’t define how you look on the outside, self-image is about what you carry on the inside. Self-image is how your character is for example if you are a loving person that as a beautiful heart that what makes you beautiful and attractive in what men and women see, at times looks isn’t everything with a good character.
The question is “How do you see yourself”, Moreover have you stop to ask yourself this, “How does God see me”… We worry about what other people think about our looks and dust how God sees us under the rug. One thing I have learnt in looking after yourself is Focusing on how God sees you and what you carry on the inside, one of the books I finished reading “WHOLENESS: WINNING IN LIFE ON THE INSIDE OUT” although the book talks about seeking your purpose but one the important thing the book talked about is working on your inside look then outside look for example working on your insecurities, character and putting your pride asides in order for you to look attractive on the outside. Inner looks work way better than outside, it only thing attractive about you is your character not how your body looks or how people want you to look. When God was looking for the anointed one, he wasn’t looking for tall, dark and handsome or Hench like Idris Elba, he was looking for someone after his heart like David. David was just a short and still a boy when God chose him to kill Goliath, Everyone was looking at him like “What Kind of Joke is this” and Goliath properly looking at him like “IS THIS YOUR ANOINTED ONE” *killmonger voice* but David didn’t care what people were saying about him because he knew the strength he carried on the inside, Cut the long story short David Killed Goliath with a stone and became one of the strongest and handsome warriors. Like I said before once you know what you carry on the inside, You won’t worry about people opinion and what they see you as affect what God has in store and the power/impact you carry.
Focus on how God sees you and block out every word that makes you feel you aren’t good looking enough or attractive enough, Don’t let people opinion destroy what God has placed inside of you.!